Are not the words I would have used to describe myself a few years ago! I’ve decided to create a blog to share my styling journey, as well as share some styling tips and tricks for plussizers. I’m a 40+ plus Londoner who was stuck in a rut trying to figure out exactly what I liked wearing and what suited my ever-changing body. Rarely do these two align 🙆🏽♀️😂. I also didn’t know where to buy. But with so many retailers now doing stylish plussize lines with good sizing, I’ve done a 360 and now dress to look good, not just to cover and hide my “unacceptable” body. I now adore that body and flaunt it unapologetically, making up for lost time hahaha.
I started posting on social media as a mood diary because I was fighting depression, with a chronic illness and out of work. I had to find a way to force myself to dress up and turn up! And guess what, I found that it positively changed my mood and confidence! At the same time, I started seeing alot of plussize influencers whose body type I identified with and it definitely inspired me on how to style my body. The body positive movement was gaining traction as well. I started accepting then loving my body more and I’ve never looked back.
Keep dressing up despite the circumstances, it can do wonders for your mood. There’s great loungewear available now. Being at home is not an excuse…. work on your make up or hairstyling skills, be more experimental with colours and styles. In the current climate, we all definitely need to be savvy about purchases. So either use what you already have or be a bargain queen! Bargain does not mean cheap and it also doesn’t mean you should buy all sale items even they look awful just because they’re cheap.
If I can encourage just one woman to love her body more, build her confidence or style herself better, that would mean the world to me as I benefited the same from others. I’m by no means a fashionista but I always try to look good within my means. I still havent figured out what my fashion sense is but what I have definitely discovered is Self-love!
I’d like to share my journey with you where some days I nail it, some days it’s epic fails, sometimes I think I’m 25 and sometimes I dress like I’m at my first job in the late 90s! Sometimes I’m dressed to the nines but sometimes, well most times I’m stuck indoors thanks to Covid and honestly struggling to get the motivation to get dressed let alone take pictures! But all the time my teenagers remind me not to embarrass them whilst I’m just trying to feel good and look good for me, with the money left over from buying them expensive trainers… sigh…. smh.
It’s certainly true, that “it’s more important what you feel than what you look like from the outside” , BUT there is no question of the power that dressing up has, to transform your mood.
I AM big, bold and beautiful.
Styled by Mazi 
Amazing work 😍💅🏾💆🏾♀️🧖🏾♀️
I feel very inspired after reading 👍🏾
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Ohh my God, you are so amazing you will go far hun, you beautiful inside and out…you do yo boo boo
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Wowww, I Stan! Absolutely proud of you.
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This is Amazing
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Lovely my girl
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Beautiful and very inspiring Thembi. Welldone sis and keep shining
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This is great Thembi. You look good. This will definately help a lot of ladies. God loves you 💐
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Good on you black Queen! So proud of you hun.👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
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Great article. I can relate
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Thank you for your blog it’s really inspiring to read about your journey and I am inspired about your vision to empower others to gain confidence I their body’s and remain fashion savvy.
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I so identify and am inspired .I am big bold and beautiful myself .Inspired for days.Am on the Santa Community group with you.You are just what the doctor ordered sister girl.
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Love this Thembi ❤️.
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You are a beautiful woman
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I love the red outfit, looks smashing. Am Cathy Mau, Santa Class of 85. Go girl go
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Well written…. I will be following you… thought only men have midlife crises! For women the crisis comes with dressing the fluctuating body weigh and shape! Lovely read💯👍🏾
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Lovely
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Way to go girl .am also a forty -something sizer hope to learn more from your posts
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Oh my God ,I love it!Girl you can write and you’re damn right self love is key and wear what you want ,when you want and feel Dambudzo sexy.Bu the way I’ve always seen you as a confident beautiful plus sizer.Will be sending stuff your way so you can flaunt that beautiful you❤️.
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Love love it sis . Keep it up you look so beautiful xx
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This is absolutely beautiful, well written and I am inspired. As a plus size lady this jus made me to feel proud and great.well done x
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You are pricelessly beautiful
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Very inspiring my sister. I love your style, humour and personality.
You have a gift, flaunt it. Lots of hugs and love xc
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Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.😘😘😘
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You go girl I love your confidence 🤜💞.
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Lovely lovely work Thembie. I especially loved the close up of you in a red top slaying with your beautiful hair style 💝
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Inspired in too many ways . Loving this blog and loving me too as a plus size! Can’t wait for my extreme makeover
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Thanks for being vulnerable sis. This will help multitudes. You are amazing. xoxoxo
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Supa dupa! I love it.
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This is amazing
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am inspired to look good no matter how i feel or my body shape and size….You are soo beautiful and representing us sotho women well
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Nice 👍🏾
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This is nice and inspiring…and true to the times we are living..kudos for fighting the depression n gaining more self love…hats off💥
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Amazing !!!!!!🔥👏🏽
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This is so beautiful I can’t stop smiling 🥰💘💞💓
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